When you are intimate with an important female friend, but you get an erection at a critical moment, it is often a huge problem for men.

If such a situation continues, some people will begin to worry about "whether or not the relationship between these people will produce a gap".

In this article, a medical specialist with erectile dysfunction explains in detail the factors that contribute to erectile dysfunction.

At the same time, he also explains how to respond to women in front of their friends, as well as the important points of maintaining their precious emotions 纽带.

 

Psychological factors for getting an erection in front of a female friend

When you are preparing for a sexual act, if your female friend suddenly gets an erection, it is possible that it is related to psychological factors.

The following is a concrete explanation of the psychological factors that affect these minor factors.

For Sexual Behavior,压力与紧张

When a girl is very happy with her friend and her feelings toward her are strong, it is easy for her to get an erection from pressure such as "I want her to be happy".

In addition, if you get too tense in front of your girlfriends, it is possible that you will get an erection.

Psychological Injuries in the past

If they have been inadequately expressed in their sexual behavior in the past, or have been subjected to criticism or rejection, it is possible that they will suffer psychological damage, and this will lead to erection difficulties.

For义务性性性行为的压力

If they think that "just because they see a female friend, it is only natural for them to engage in sexual activity," sexual activity becomes a requirement, and from this pressure arises, men who get erections are less likely to be seen.

关系进入倦怠期与新鲜感的缺失

Each sexual act follows the same process, and it is easy for the relationship to fall into a fixed pattern, resulting in a sense of ennui.

When the sense of novelty is weakened, some men may change their behavior and become irritated.

Ego evaluation is low and shameful

If she is not satisfied with her own behavior, it will cause her to lower her self-esteem.

In addition, when the duration of their relationships is longer and the number of sexual acts is lower, men are more likely to feel "shame due to prolonged sexual acts.

Low self-esteem or a sense of shame is often a common cause of long relationships among men.

Decrease in the relationship between a companion and a partner

If there is a dispute between you and your female friend, or if you see your partner appear, the relationship between you and your female friend will deteriorate, and you will feel pressure or exclusion from your partner more easily.

The problem has already been resolved, but you can still get an erection.

What to do when you have an erection in front of a female friend

When they are not in front of their important female friends, men may experience anxiety and guilt such as "how will they feel when they meet her" and "I'm disappointed in her.

In this way, the following is a guide to how to respond to a female friend's request in front of her.

Increased opportunities for communication

If you want to hide your erection, it is a common thought among many men.

However, if they are aware of their own feelings of guilt or shame, the symptoms will worsen.

In addition, if the sexual activity is suddenly interrupted, the female friend may develop a sense of distrust.

If you want to avoid this kind of situation, first of all, please express your feelings in a frank manner.

We will be able to increase the number of opportunities for communication, and we will also be able to deepen the emotional connections between the two parties.

Use of medicines to treat ED

If the cause of erection in front of a female friend is psychological, it may be possible to improve the condition with ED treatment.

ED疗药物在产生性欲時，可通过扩张血管或抑制妨碍勃起的酶，从而对性行为起到辅助作用。

However, there are few cases of psychological erectile dysfunction that can be improved by using ED treatments that can help to complete the erectile dysfunction more quickly, and by gradually building faith.

Psychological treatment and consultation

ED诊疗指南，针对心因性ED的精神治療疗，包括的心理疗法 as shown in the table below.

psychoanalytic method	supportive psychosomatic treatment	concentrated treatment of the senses
autogenic training	hypersensitive treatment	focal point method
伴侣疗法	sex education	自慰训练

 

将上述心理疗法与心理咨询及ED治疗药物相结合，有望获得更高的治疗效果。

该如何向女朋友说明？ 不破坏关系的表达要点

在女朋友面前无法勃起时，许多男性会担心“是否会破坏彼此的关系”“突然回避性行为会不会被怀疑”。

对于是否如实向女朋友说明真实情况，也往往会感到不安。

下面将介绍在不破坏现有关系的前提下，向女朋友传达无法勃起这一情况时需要注意的要点。

Use I information importing and displaying

不要使用将责任归咎于对方的说法，而应尝试用“我感到”“我在担心”等以自身感受为主语的I信息来表达。

如果使用YOU信息，容易被对方理解为是在指责她，从而加深彼此之间的隔阂。

通过传达因无法勃起而产生的烦恼与不安，更容易让女朋友愿意倾听，也有助于两人共同面对问题。

展现积极的态度

在说明无法勃起这一情况时，如果带着消极情绪进行表达，女朋友可能会不知道该如何应对。

因此，可以以“希望两个人一起克服”“会认真面对治疗”等积极的态度进行传达。

当重要的伴侣展现出积极姿态时，女朋友也更容易产生共鸣，并愿意给予支持。

Submission of love expressions other than infixing

如果只是单方面告知“无法勃起”，女朋友可能只会感到不安，甚至产生“是不是自己的原因”的想法。

在传达时，应以无法勃起这一情况为前提，提出增加除插入以外的爱意表达方式。

例如，增加身体接触或交流沟通，让对方明白即使没有插入行为，也能通过其他方式传达彼此的爱意，从而让女朋友的情绪得到缓解。

Please do not hesitate to contact Men's Pride Clinic MITA TOKYO if you are in front of a female friend.

在女朋友面前无法勃起，对男性而言是一个非常严重的问题，也可能导致作为男性的自信心丧失。

如果因在重要的女朋友面前无法勃起，而对维持彼此关系感到不安，欢迎咨询Men’s Pride Clinic MITA TOKYO。

Men’s Pride Clinic MITA TOKYO 为了让对敏感问题感到难以启齿的人也能安心就诊，同时提供线上诊疗服务。

 

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在女朋友面前无法勃起的原因多种多样，但如果属于心理因素，明确原因并进行适当治疗尤为重要。

然而，对男性来说，无法勃起是一个非常敏感的问题，许多人会因羞耻或不安而难以向他人倾诉。

如果存在这样的困扰，建议首先咨询Men’s Pride Clinic MITA TOKYO。

Men’s Pride Clinic MITA TOKYO 专注于男性特有的烦恼，并通过独立诊室的形式，使患者能够更安心地进行咨询。

此外，对于对当面就诊感到不安或居住地较远的人，也提供线上诊疗服务。

如果希望改善勃起功能障碍，重新找回与重要女朋友共度的时光，欢迎咨询Men’s Pride Clinic MITA TOKYO。