“I want to enjoy sex with my partner more.”
“I wish we could be more intimate, but I just can’t recover fast enough.”

Many men share these concerns.

This article, supervised by a specialist at Men’s Pride Clinic MITA TOKYO, explains the common issues faced by men who struggle with having a second round of sex, as well as practical solutions.

It also introduces ways to build a body that’s more responsive to round two, along with an overview of the fast-acting erectile support medication, Levitra. If you want to enjoy longer, more fulfilling time with your partner, this guide is for you.

 

Common Concerns of Men Who Struggle With a Second Round of Sex

Many men who are unable to go for a second round of sex often share similar concerns. Below are some of the most common issues they face.

Unable to Get Erect After the First Round / Long Refractory Period

One of the main reasons some men struggle with a second round is a prolonged refractory period—the time after

ejaculation when it’s difficult to get another erection.
The length of this period varies by individual, and for some men, it may take a full night’s sleep to recover.

Strong Sexual Desire, But the Body Doesn’t Keep Up

Even when sexual desire remains strong, many men find their body simply can’t keep up.
As we age, stamina naturally decreases, and if you feel exhausted or unmotivated after the first round, it could indicate that your physical endurance needs improvement.

Worrying That the Partner May Not Be Satisfied

Some men become anxious, wondering if their partner is truly satisfied with their performance.
This anxiety can create psychological pressure that makes achieving or maintaining an erection more difficult.
In some cases, these psychological factors may even lead to erectile dysfunction or premature loss of erection.

Types and Causes of Refractory Periods – Effective and Immediate Solutions

The so-called “Kensha Time” (post-ejaculatory refractory period) can be classified into three main types based on their causes.

Type	Main Causes
Brain-Origin	• Prolactin secretion • Pleasure-related neurotransmitters
Physical-Origin	• Fatigue • Poor blood flow • Depleted physical energy
Mental-Origin	• Nervousness • Anxiety • Past trauma

Let’s explore specific strategies tailored to each type.

Coping with Brain-Origin Refractory Periods – Reset Your Mental Switch

If the cause is hormonal, as in brain-origin cases, the following strategies may help:

Strategy	How to Do It
Shift your mindset	• Share a lighthearted story • Make eye contact
Regain confidence	• Say “It’s okay” to yourself • Recall a past success
Relax with scent	• Smell your partner’s hair, perfume, or calming aromas
Focus on the present	• Look into your partner’s eyes • Hold hands

Among these, regaining confidence may require inner strength. However, expressing affection through conversation or physical touch can help you reset your thinking positively.

Coping with Physical-Origin Refractory Periods – Gentle Physical Stimulation

For those whose refractory period is caused by physical fatigue, try the following:

Strategy	How to Do It
Gentle stimulation	• Touch the neck or inner thighs • Whisper or kiss near the ears
Skin contact	• Hug your partner • Hold hands • Gently touch the stomach or back
Regulate breathing	• Breathe slowly in through the nose and out through the mouth
Switch positions	• Try side-lying or rear entry to reduce fatigue

Erections occur when blood flows into the penis during arousal. Therefore, taking a warm bath or similar methods to promote blood flow may also be effective.

Coping with Mental-Origin Refractory Periods – Relax into a Safe State

When anxiety, nervousness, or trauma is the cause, these strategies may help:

Strategy	How to Do It
Center your emotions	• Close your eyes and take deep breaths • Try a meditation app
Accept kind words from your partner	• Take in reassuring phrases like “You don’t have to push yourself”
Take action to reset your mood	• Play music • Close your eyes and relax
Affirm yourself	• Stand tall, look in the mirror, and accept yourself as you are

In addition to calming your mind, if mental factors are significantly interfering with your sexual performance, psychological counseling or therapy can be helpful.

According to the Japanese Society for Sexual Medicine’s clinical guidelines, psychodynamic therapy, supportive psychotherapy, and sensate focus therapy have shown efficacy.

Couples therapy is also an option for those who want to overcome this together with their partner.

Reference: Japanese Society for Sexual Medicine / Japanese Urological Association: ED Clinical Guidelines, 3rd Edition

Mid-to-Long-Term Solutions — Building Your Body to Shorten the Refractory Period

The refractory period after ejaculation can sometimes be improved through your own efforts. The following lifestyle habits can support a quicker recovery and better performance for a second round of sex.

Strength Training and Cardio

If fatigue is a factor, building stamina through strength training or aerobic exercise is recommended.
Aerobic activities in particular are known to help maintain or increase testosterone levels—the hormone linked to libido and erectile function.
Continued exercise also improves blood circulation, which helps deliver oxygen and nutrients throughout the body, including to the penis. This in turn may support better erections and improve your ability to enjoy a second round.

Improving Your Diet

Adjusting your diet can positively impact your erection quality.
Nutrients such as zinc and vitamin D are known to support the production of male hormones like testosterone.
Additionally, ingredients like arginine and polyphenols can enhance blood flow, which helps the penis receive an adequate supply of blood during arousal.

Sleep and Stress Management

Sleep is closely tied to erectile function. Poor sleep quality may lead to erectile dysfunction.
Stress is another major contributor that can interfere with sexual performance.
Try to maintain a consistent sleep schedule and create an environment conducive to deep, restful sleep.
Taking a warm bath before bed or avoiding smartphones and tablets in the evening can also help improve sleep quality.

Deep Breathing for Nervous System Balance

Erections are regulated by the autonomic nervous system—specifically, the parasympathetic nervous system, which is activated during relaxation.
Practicing deep breathing can stimulate this response, allowing blood vessels in the penis to dilate and encourage stronger blood flow.
You can do this easily at any time: inhale slowly through your nose, and exhale gently through your mouth.

Quit Smoking and Limit Alcohol

Excessive drinking constricts blood vessels and can interfere with erections.
Smoking also damages blood vessels and reduces blood flow, posing additional risks to erectile health.
Both habits are also linked to lifestyle diseases. Reducing or eliminating them is important not only for sexual health but for your overall well-being—and for reclaiming joyful, intimate time with your partner.

Reconsider Your Masturbation Habits

There is no universally harmful frequency of masturbation supported by medical evidence.
However, certain habits—such as excessively long sessions or reliance on extreme pornography—can dull sexual sensitivity and create unrealistic expectations for real-life sex.
If this applies to you, consider adjusting how you masturbate: try shortening the duration or changing the type of stimuli you use, such as different genres of adult content.

For a More Reliable Second Round, the Fast-Acting Medication “Levitra” Is Recommended

No matter how much you prepare, some may still worry:
“What if I can’t get an erection again?”
“What if my partner thinks I have ED and loses interest?”

Even if you try to act cheerful, deep down you may feel anxious or guilty, thinking:
“I’m doing my best, but it’s not working.”

If you have these concerns, consider Levitra, an ED medication available at Men’s Pride Clinic MITA TOKYO.

Levitra takes effect in about 15 to 30 minutes after taking it and supports natural erections by improving blood flow.
It may help you get another erection after ejaculation.

If you feel unsure about self-care alone or want to enjoy the second round quickly, feel free to consult Men’s Pride Clinic MITA TOKYO.

结论

The second round of sex (after ejaculation) is greatly affected by physical condition and mental state.
If you’re currently struggling with achieving a second erection, don’t worry — you are not alone.

You can start by reviewing your physical and mental health and trying small changes such as improving your sleep quality, exercise habits, and diet. These adjustments may help shorten the refractory period (known as the “post-ejaculation phase”) and increase your chances of successfully engaging in a second round.

If self-care doesn’t seem to work, there are also treatment options available through specialized clinics. Don’t hesitate to reach out — addressing the issue early can make a meaningful difference.